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|Pegging is a
in which a
woman penetrates a man's anus with a strap-on
dildo or using one of the
new harnessless double dildoes.
"pegging" was popularized when it became the winning entry in a contest
in Dan Savage's Savage Love sex advice column,
that he held
after observing that there was no common name for the act.
However, while Dan's readers christened the term pegging, they did not invent the
act. According to Violet Blue's research (she wrote the book, "The
Ultimate Guide to Strap-on Sex for Couples", which is currently out of
print, sorry!) pegging started showing up
in adult movies during the early 1970's and then became increasingly
straight kids, once strap-on harnesses became more commercially
Continued popularity for the act of pegging?
"Perhaps straight guys are more interested in having women play with
their asses because of increased awareness about prostate health," says
Violet. "Or maybe, guys are just more comfortable and confident about
To locate the prostate, slide a finger into the anus about an inch or
two and carefully feel the front wall of the rectal cavity, until you
discover a small
lump. This lump is the prostate swollen and protruding so you can feel
it through the rectal lining. Herein lies the ability to provide direct
the prostate, which can cause a man to have an intense orgasm, even without
any penile stimulation.
For women, in terms of
physical pleasure, her genitals may
get direct stimulation from
the base of the dildo, the strap-on leather or cloth rubbing on the
clitoral area or in the case of a newer double-ended
dildoes, both vaginal penetration and clitoral friction
secondary vibrator, can also be used
between the dildo
and her genitals for added pleasure from pegging.
In men, the anterior (front) wall of the anus
provides direct access to a man's
prostate. The prostate, for
those who have never heard of it, is the
seat of a man's orgasm. It is the seat of the mysterious mounting
pressure that a
man feels, just before orgasm hence the location the orgasm emanates.
woman pegging a man
doggy-style with a 4-strap harness and dildo
stimulation of the anus, rectum, as well as the sensitive nerve endings
in the ring of the sphincter muscles all add to the impact of the
internal stimulation of the prostate. Most men claim they have uniquely
different types of orgasm, anally, as they feel varying waves of
sensations along with the rhythm and stimulation while the dildo slides
in and out. Some men enjoy masturbating (or being manually
stimulated) during pegging, ultimately reaching a mind blowing orgasm.
columnist Dan Savage wrote that he believes
all men should try pegging at least once, as it may introduce them to a
new enjoyable sexual activity and illuminate them to the receiver's
perspective in sex.
Given our new understanding of the natures
of masculinity and femininity, we can now understand why there is no
danger to a relationship if a couple chooses to engage in pegging. It
is more likely to actually improve the relationship than it is to harm
it, as long as both partners engage in it voluntarily and with open
To comfortably engage psychologically, there are a few steps needed
to assure success. First, a man must be comfortable with and in his
body. Oddly enough, many men have very strong fears about their anuses,
such as phobias in touching or handling their anuses because of
connotations of being gay, or the hygiene related to feces, or concerns
about being stretching the anal opening causing incontinence. All of
these are normal responses to engaging in unknown territory, but rest
assured, thousands of healthy, heterosexual men are engaging in this
practice... and are very happy about it.
Even though hygiene is always a concern with any anal play,
it is actually a fairly clean place. The basic physiology of the rectum
(which is the part of the anus immediately inside the sphincter) is not
used for storing feces, it is only present when you have that feeling
of having to defecate. Therefore, if you don't feel like you have to
defecate, there is probably little, if any fecal matter in the rectum.
In terms of keeping the outside of the anus clean, a little soap and
water in the shower everyday combined with good wiping skills keeps it
Savage, who coined the term, believes all men should try pegging
The anal opening actually has a set of two muscle
groups, an internal and an external sphincter. Our body has conscious
control of the external sphincter muscle, while the internal one is
involuntary. Basically, this allows for exercising the outer sphincter
to increase muscle tone, avoiding any sort of incontinence issues. Just
like all other muscles in our body, the more they are used, the
stronger they become. Therefore, anal play can actually make the anus
Although there are certainly many more benefits, a
very important psychological factor is that pegging helps a man understand the
complexities of emotions and intricacies of the woman response to
penetration. This understanding can help him to better appreciate what
his partner feels, both physically and emotionally during sex. It may
also help explore variations of positions or thrusting techniques, to
share on a deeper (pun not intended) level the results of being on the
Likewise, the many benefits for women begin with an understanding about
what it feels like to be the penetrative partner. There is also the
pure joy of knowing you have given your partner a uniquely exquisite
pleasure. This carries through the power exchange role play that can
exhilarate and add a new confidence to the couple's dynamic, ultimately
enhancing communication. Being open and honest about your desires and
needs helps your partner to be more open and honest about their own,
which builds a much stronger relationship of trust and understanding,
in so many other aspects of life, as well.
instructional movies and books have emerged
in recent years, including Bend Over Boyfriend
co-produced by Fatale Media, Inc., and created and directed by Shar
Rednour and Jackie Strano, SIR Video Movies co-founders. Bend Over
Boyfriend originally inspired Dan Savage to call the act 'BOB'
readers subsequently voted on the winning term, pegging. And
for the more advanced and more " rockin' and less talkin' "... Bend
Over Boyfriend 2 (1999).
American adult film director and sex
educator Tristan Taormino released an instructional pegging movie in
2009 by Vivid Entertainment Studio, Tristan
Taormino's Expert Guide
to Anal Pleasure for Men,
featuring a detailed explanation about male anal pleasure and strap-on
dildo sex. In it, she teaches a workshop with instructions and skills
for safe and pleasurable female on male anal sex. There are three
scenes, in which pairs of adult film actors explore different sexual
devices and positions for pegging.
accomplished author of numerous sex guides
and informational books on various sexual taboos, Violet Blue wrote and
released The Adventurous Couple's Guide to
Pegging in Adult Films
recently been featured in a number of adult
movies; the first pegging
scene (long before the term was
developed) appears to have been in the semi-documentary 1970
film Myra Breckinridge, based on the
novel of the same name by Gore Vidal, although it was not explicit. The
first explicit female to male anal penetration scene is believed to
have occurred in the 1975 adult film The Opening of Misty Beethoven.
strap-on pornography became a
flourishing industry in the U.S. in the early 21st century, with a
number of studios producing dedicated series about it. Adult titles
include Strap It On (black women on white men), Babes
Balling Boys, (with sixteen editions), Strap Attack, Strap-on
Sirenz, Strap-on Chicks, Boss Bitches, (with over
two dozen editions), various movies produced by LEDA Studios, and San
Francisco-based Men In Pain. Several hundred exclusively
pegging titles were developed, as well as twice as many bisexual and straight films with strap-on
scenes. Well-known female porn stars
who professed an enjoyment of pegging their male partners include
Taylor Wane, Brittany Andrews, and Monique Covét. When questioned about
her particular kink Covét replied, "If we women have to take it from
behind, then why not a man?"
culture and the arts
2008 film Zack and Miri Make a Porno
features pegging between characters played by Traci Lords and Ricky
is a depiction of pegging in the William
S. Burroughs novel Naked Lunch. The dildo used in the scene is
called a Steely Dan III, and is the source from which the musical group
Steely Dan takes its name.
2007 film YPF features a storyline
in which a couple who feel their lovemaking has become boring over
time, attempt to spice up their sex by trying pegging.
was featured in the 2005 series of the
UK comedy Peep Show (2005).
was featured in the television show Weeds,
during the episode "Crush Girl Love Panic"
the pilot episode of Dirt (2007),
Lucy Spiller (Courteney Cox) blackmails Prince Tyreese (Rick Fox) with
photographs of him being pegged by a prostitute.
theatre company Pack of Others have
an entire theatrical performance devoted to "spreading the word about
the pleasures of prostate stimulation and strap-on sex." The show has
toured nationally and won Best Comedy at the 2008 San Francisco Fringe Festival.
Savage was the guest on The Colbert
Report on November 29, 2010. During the interview Savage educated
host Stephen Colbert on the practice of pegging.