Sex - Fellatio and Cunnilingus and Analingus
is Oral Sex?
sex relates to anything done with the mouth from:
and continuous mouth and tongue contact over the body and primarily on
-penis and mouth contact for sexual gratification
-vagina/clitoris and mouth contact for sexual gratification
-anus/rectal opening and mouth contact for sexual gratification
should always be done with a great deal of patience, personal hygiene,
sensitivity, tenderness and most importantly a consensual attitude of
and enjoyment! As not everyone is comfortable with oral sex, use
(talk about it first!) to be sure where and what your partner's comfort
zones may or may not be!
we always say, safe, sane and consensual... and that means consensual
both! Talking about oral sex helps in the discovery of phobias or fears
from earlier experiences or negative painful memories, which may be
overcome with time by patiently and lovingly working on them. Rushing
process makes it very uninviting, so take your time, relax and go with
the flow... literally!
is Cunnilingus and How is it Done?
sex for women is called cunnilingus and most women find it very
Cunnilingus is the fine art of making love to a vagina with your mouth
and tongue. But remember, no two women are alike, so each one will have
their own likes and/or dislikes when it comes to oral stimulation of
vagina and clitoris. It is a delicate act, requiring patience, practice
and dedication... and again, most importantly, communication.
slippery tongue can be used with precision on the clitoris without
of causing any pain, unlike a finger. Whenever you touch a woman's
make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices
from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her
clitoris because it does not secrete any juices of its own and is
sensitive and it can hurt if the area is too dry. Also, a note to guys
with nasty facial stubles: Prickly facial stubs on a woman's soft inner
thighs during cunnilingus can "kill" the mood. Shave your face and trim
your nails before attempting cunnilingus.
must find how they like things done to them, and this is a very
thing, but here's a few basic steps to get started:
may like additional stimulation:
and kissing, especially face and mouth
working your way down her body, kissing and stroking her breasts and
and stroking her inner thighs, which is a very sensitive and exciting
for most women.
toward the clitoris by gently spreading open (with tongue and/or
the labia lips, while licking with the tip of your tongue
your tongue lightly and firmly all around the clit and up and down the
inwards with your tongue, nuzzling, burrowing and thrusting your tongue
into her vagina
partner has achieved orgasm:
or a vibrating or non-vibrating toy or dong into the vagina and/or into
and nipples fondled and lightly pinched and taunted
the G-Spot zone at the roof of her vagina while having oral sex (the G-Force
is great for this!)
can be one of the most exciting sexual experiences you can have:
leave her alone
love to her quietly until her orgasm has eased
sensitivity from her lover
to the needs and signals of your lover
About the Smell and Taste?
we've been saying: communicate. If the taste or smell bothers you
explain that to her... a refreshing wash before staring may be the
Be sure to use a mild soap and rinse all of the soap residue away, to
a mouthful of a soapy taste! Another idea is to rub some
oil or other scented essential oils on the thighs near the pussy or
above it on the lower belly. While the body heats up from the
the essentials become more fragrant. However, most people who really
cunnilingus agree that the musky smell of woman's sexual odor is as
of the turn-on as the powerful orgasms that are produced.
About Cunnilingus During Menstruation?
during menstruation is definitely a personal decision between you and
partner. If this is a concern for you in any way, do not do it! Those
do like to take this adventure, usually use a tampon during strong flow
times. Actually, there is no particular danger in menstrual blood, as
as your partner has no infections is HIV/AIDS negative. As a matter of
fact, orgasms during menstruation can help alleviate period cramps.
There Any Tricks to a Quickie Orgasm ?
is no such thing as the ultimate "quickie orgasm secret" that applies
any one woman or all women, for that matter. Being good at cunnilingus
involves knowing basic female anatomy and being a good listener: listen
to her and then listen to her body. ASK HER what she likes in
is Analingus and how is it done?
is licking with your tongue over your partner's anal opening. Absolute
hygiene is required for this sexual delicacy! Make certain that your
has just showered and is very clean. At no time should your tongue come
into contact with the anal surface itself. Hepatitis is not fun, so
sure your fun is protected by using a dam
even plastic wrap, if you're in a pinch!
partner should lie on his/her back with his/her legs in the air and his
knees close to his/her shoulders as this spreads his/her buttocks
allowing you greater access to his anus. The nerve endings around the
respond to licking around the area. Analingus, combined with other
such as vigorous penis or clitoral stimulation with the hand or vibrating
heightens the arousal and sensitivities of the anus.
is Fellatio and how is it done?
sex for men is called fellatio. Other than lots of practice and finding
out what feels good for both the receiver and the giver, there is no
for a seminar on this favorite of sexual practices! Obviously, the lips
and the tongue are the major sources of stimulation. Most men find
their penis sucked, licked and kissed intensely exciting, producing
orgasms. Therefore, specific skills, techniques, and positions are not
as important as the comfort levels of the participants to "go for it"
whatever way satisfies them. Many men like as much stimulation as
and like the feel of a wet mouth and hands on the penis, as well.
men are worried they may be bitten or scratched by the teeth. If the
opens his/her mouth as wide as possible, closes his/her lips but not
teeth over the penis, there should be no problem with this. Using all
muscles in the lips and tongue will mean that the teeth should not come
into contact with the penis at all. The best way is to become familiar
with the activity in an easy, relaxed way and add on from there.
the main thing is to have a good time.
find that they start to gag or choke during fellatio. Moving the head
mouth in different positions will help remedy this situation. If the
reflex" continues to be an issue, try putting only the head of the
into the mouth to get used to the sensation, then slowly allow more and
more over time to adjust to the fullness feeling in the mouth. Usually
over time and with much patience and practice, the "gag reflex" can be
resolved to the point of nonexistence.
everything, every penis is unique and different with individually
sensitive areas. People like to be touched and fondled in different
Ask your partner how they would like you to touch them. Go by your
reactions, sounds etc. and you will know if it is going okay.
are some Techniques?
male genitals are highly sensitive to pain so be very gentle. Try
with kissing your partner's face and mouth gradually proceeding to his
genitals and then stimulate the penis with your lips and tongue lick
along the shaft, exploring all its shape, thickness, soft skin.
from the textured crown on top with its meatus or opening, then to the
frenum or frenulum, the sensitive place where the glans joins the shaft
on the underside, the string-like portion coming down from the head to
the ring of skin, called the corona. Some men are uncircumcised and
have foreskin around the head of their penis (corona and frenum). And
forget "the boys", the scrotum (testicles) loves attention with your
and tongue tip, also!
can provide the highest degree of sensation to yourself and your
by kneeling between his legs and approaching his penis from the bottom
rather than from the side or the top. One of the simplest and nicest
is to move your mouth up and down on his penis. This is called sliding.
Take the head of the penis in your mouth and suck it, tickling it at
same time with your tongue, then move your lips up and down the shaft,
sucking and pressing with your lips and tongue, followed by sliding
or fast taking in as much penis into your mouth as you like, then
the penis out slowly while still sucking on it.
method is to treat it like a lollipop: lick upwards from the testicles
to the top of the penis, and to heighten his orgasm, place your thumb
the very base of the penis blocking the tube through which the semen
so the the semen cannot escape, then at the same time suck vigorously
the head of his penis, so that your partner's ejaculation of semen will
last much longer and be very intense
to add some anal play with it begin a slow playful search around his
as your partner relaxes and allows you access, gently insert your latex
gloved finger into his anus, you will be at the area of the
gland when your finger is inside completely, so massage this gland with
your finger to produce delightful sensations for your partner or use a prostate
stimulating vibrator instead!
about the Smell or Taste?
ask him to go take a shower if the smell is unpleasant to you. Basic
is essential in any sexual practice and necessary in this age of
STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases). There is no problem if your
is healthy with no infection, besides, the mouth does have millions
germs than a clean penis.
women enjoy having their partner ejaculate into their mouth, however,
women find the idea of swallowing semen repugnant. It is up to the
how you handle this issue. Many men feel that by swallowing their
you accept a part of themselves into your body to totally complete your
lovemaking but many people don't like the taste of semen. You have to
it out with each other. And believe it or not you can help change some
of the taste and smell of semen by the foods you eat. For example,
foods such as meats and fish produce a bitter, fishy taste and dairy
contain a high bacterial putrefaction level which creates a foul taste,
but acidic fruits and alcohol give a pleasant, sugary taste, But
chemically processed liquors will cause an extremely acidic taste, so
high-quality, naturally fermented beers or sake!
if you are counting calories, no worries... the caloric content of an
semen ejaculation is estimated to be approximately 15 calories. For the
scientific researchers, here's the chemical contents: aboutonia,
acid, blood-group antigens, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, choline, ,
citric acid, creatine, eoxyribonucleic acid (DNA), fructose,
hyaluronidase, inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus,
potassium, purine, pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol,
spermine, urea, uric acid, vitamin B12, zinc. Wow! That's better than a
is the 69 position?
'69' position is so called because as a couple engage in oral sex with
eachother at the same time, they form a 6-9 (top of head of six is on
genitals of 9 and vice versa!). This is an excellent way of arousing
other and some people feel that it is the best position in which to
partner lies with their head by each other's genitals (most penises
upwards towards the head, and that curve matches the curve of the
in the 69 position). Most couples really enjoy this position for
intimacy with eachother as a way of "you get yours and I get mine" at
same time! However, don't worry if one becomes a little more distracted
and "forgets" what he or she is doing... just relax and enjoy the
and sucking and nibbling... even if both get to orgasm at the same time
or at all, it's always a great way to segue into more lovemaking!
is the risk of being infected with HIV or other STD's (Sexually
Transmitted Diseases) in having unprotected oral sex
a man or a woman, however, it is not as risky as unprotected anal or
sex. HIV is found in: blood, breast milk, semen, and vaginal fluids.
virus can transmitted through: cuts, mucous membranes (anus, mouth,
openings and sores on your body.
oral sex, to avoid risk of HIV infection, if you are unsure of your
health history it is important to keep semen and vaginal fluids out of
your mouth, so use a condom or dam!
make sure that your mouth is healthy and you do not have bleeding gums,
cuts, or mouth sores, as the presence of blood will increase your risk.
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